Do any of your friends know of your extracurrcular hobby?

Yes, but only a very select few. I'm very choosy about who I tell. It has to be someone who I have a great deal of trust in. Even if they are really good friends, I have to decide if I want them to know and see me that way. It changes how they treat me.

I have one good friend who is very uncomfortable with the subject and will change the subject or find something to do, even if it isn't about me directly. The funny thing is, she hangs out with a friend of mine who is totally cool with it and often likes to ask questions. Makes for a pretty bizarre moment.

If so, do they accept you, or, have you lost friends because they disapprove of your lifestyle?

Their reactions have been very different. Some just avoid the subject, some think it's pretty cool and some tell me they wish they had the courage to do it. I've not lost any friends because of it, but I think that is because I am so choosy about who I let in on my little secret.

On the downside, I had a cousin who uncovered my sister's website through another person who had a really big mouth. In turn, they found out about my site and felt it was their place in life to inform my parents and entire extended family about what we were up to. I had chosen to tell my parents out of respect, so they wouldn't get sideswiped should this very situation occur. I wasn't looking for their approval, just didn't want them to find out from someone but me.

Some people in life need to tear other people down to make themselves look better. But really, it highlights just how pathetic their lives must be. I think it's more sad that they don't have a strong relationship with their spouse, and explore this kind of adult fun.

Have any of your women friends inquired about how they could discretely get into this hobby?

My sister found out about it and she got into her own thing on the Internet, but otherwise most of them are more worried about the consequences of being out there. The fact that there are a lot of people who aren't as open-minded means the reality is I could lose my job because of it. This is something they worry about. Some aren't so sure that is where their own relationship is at that kind of stage either.

In the grand scheme of things, I think it is all worth it because my husband and I are so much closer and have a great relationship. I wouldn't trade that for anything...not to mention all the fun sex I've had because of the photo sessions too ;-)

Andee  xoxo